There are two types of people categorized under communication styles. The first one is called an introvert while the second one is dubbed as an extrovert. Sometimes these two communication features can overlap.
In today’s topic, we’ll learn about the two polar opposites (extrovert and introvert) and how to deal with each of them communicatively speaking. We’ll start with extroverts:
How to effectively communicate with extroverts
If you’re someone that has the tendency to be an introvert at a time, dealing with extroverts can be difficult sometimes. But there are ways of going around extroverts. Once you learn why extroverts are “extroverts” in the first place, you’ll sympathies with their situation and communicate with them effectively in no time.
People with extroverted behavior tend to interact more than usual. Believe it or not, but plain Science can explain extroverted personality. Extroverted people have a strong dopamine response. Dopamine is a chemical in the nervous system that has a role in the reward and pleasure psychological aspect of humans. Extroverts feel motivated to interact more with people because they associate it with reward afterward.
In a way, it’s an undeniable fact that social interaction can yield rewards, whether it’s for intimacy, security, or seeking connection, social interaction yields something. Extroverts make the most of social interactions. The more rewarding-like your conversations are with extroverts, the more they’ll feel warm towards you. With that in mind, here are some of the best practices to keep in communicating with them.
1) Be positive
Extroverts find social interactions enjoyable and interesting. They place great importance on social interactions. Extroverts get sad or disappointed, too, with the social interaction they’ve just experienced didn’t go well. To keep them from being sad and disappointed, stay positive in your dealings with them. Let them know that you appreciate your social interaction with them, and they’ll likely look forward to interacting with you.
2) Offer them a challenge
The idea of unpredictability isn’t absolutely viewed as a bad notion by extroverts. Sometimes, extroverts view unpredictability as challenges to overcome. Extroverts have a stronger neurological response to challenges than introverts. If you’re trying to gain the trust of an extrovert to join your cause, give it to them in a package of adventure and exciting opportunities.
3) Let them talk
This perhaps might be the most non-brainer to do in dealing with extroverts. Extroverts, in general, like talking. When you talk to extroverts, always give them the space to talk. Do not cut them off mid-sentence unless you’re not saying anything necessary. They sometimes recognize you giving them time to talk, and they’ll most likely give back the gesture too.
4) Get to know more about your extroverted friend
Extroverted people aren’t canned. They are all uniquely extroverted in their own way, so don’t treat them the same. To best deal with them, it’s important to get a sense of the person you’re talking to. If you can, stop labeling them as extroverts but rather deal with them, as if they’re the unique person in the world because each of us is.
How to effectively communicate with introverts
Introverts are, most of the time, labeled wrongly as shy or just plain quiet. Some of them might be timid, but this shouldn’t be considered universally truthful attributes of introverts. Introverts just prefer to keep their thoughts on themselves sometimes, but that doesn’t mean that they didn’t want to be invited to parties or get involved in a gathering or something. Anyway, introverts as well extroverts are beautiful people, and if you want to really get along with them fast, try to keep the following practices in mind.
1) Do active listening
Extroverts and introverts both like their conversationalists to be actively listening, but with introverts, there’s a little difference. Extroverts like it when you look attentive to them, but introverts like it when you take an interest in them. You see, introverts like to be understood. Try the following actions to signify that you’re interested in them but do these genuinely:
- nodding your head
- leaning in
- taking notes (if in a conference or something like that)
2) Think before you speak
Introverts like to keep their thought process within themselves while extroverts at times like you to know both their thinking process and conclusions. If an introvert and extrovert are talking, the best way to balance out the conversation is to keep to yourself your thinking process but then blurt out your conclusions. That way, both extrovert and introvert meet halfway
3) Respect their private space
Privacy is important, whether you’re an extrovert or an introvert. In introverts, privacy for them isn’t exactly secretive. If, for example, you’re talking about a sensitive matter to an introvert, invite them to talk to a private space or any space that no one will hear your conversations easily.
4) Speak calmly
Don’t be condescending to introverts. They’ll try to avoid every strength that they have. Introverts don’t like to be thrown into chaotic and unorganized thought processes, so be gentle when talking to them. Introverts bask on conversations, so don’t quicken the pace of your conversation.